My article today will present to you a disappointing aspect of society. In which a person is forced to take a big decision like marriage due to reasons like social pressure, age limit.
Let’s discuss some such conservative mentality:
1) This includes people who force their loved ones to get married due to pressure from relatives, friends or neighbors:
No matter what you do in life, there will always be people who will question you about one thing or another. How? When? What? Asking these questions has become a common thing for people now. When people keep asking you about marriage, it doesn’t mean they are worried about you. Rather, they are curious to know what is going on in someone’s life.
If you think that after this the series of questions will end then you are absolutely wrong. Such people focus on the next goal after completing one goal. For example; as soon as a marriage is fixed in a family, they target another family. They keep repeating this habit throughout their life.
As a result of asking the same question over and over again:
- You begin to avoid gatherings where you might be asked these questions.
- You isolate yourself from people. You start feeling as if you have committed a crime.
- Disliking this isolation and not being able to tolerate criticism from people forces you to put pressure on your loved ones. This creates discord in the family.
Therefore, if you too are getting influenced by others and pressuring your loved ones for marriage, then please do not do so.
2) This includes people who force their loved ones to get married just because they feel that this is the right age and time to get married:
According to such people, marriage has a certain limit and a specific time frame. They get so entangled in the complexities of age and time that their main focus becomes not on a good marriage, but on the marriage itself.
“I don’t understand why there is a specific time for a person to choose his/her life partner.”
Every person has the full right to choose his/her life partner. The choice may take time, which is inevitable. What should be the time limit or should there be a time limit at all? It is completely up to the individual. No other person has any role to play in this.
If you care for your loved ones then it is your responsibility to give importance to their likes and dislikes. This is a major life decision, so you must evaluate the situation maturely before taking a hasty decision. Do not bind your loved ones to any limits, give them complete freedom. So that, they do not face any difficulty in taking decisions.
Is there a time limit to get married??
I would like to answer this with a resounding “no”. You can wait until you find your perfect match.
- It’s a little difficult to get to know someone in just a few days and feel like you can spend your entire life with this person. I do not agree with the theory that a person can be understood in one hour or 24 hours.
- Communication is a very effective medium to know any person. By talking, one can know about a person’s thinking, mentality and way of living. So, don’t rush into marriage before knowing the person well. Sometimes, wedding shopping preparations make most of the people so excited that they forget that this is the first step of the second innings. So, even if people around you are pressuring you to get married, you should take enough time to choose your life partner.
- Many of you might be thinking that I got divorced despite talking for many days or my married life is not going well. For your information, let me tell you that marriage is not a degree which once you get it, stays with you for the whole life.
- A happy married life is like the human body. As long as the immunity in the body is strong, you will not be affected by any foreign particles. As soon as your body’s immunity power weakens, your body falls ill. Similarly, as long as there is patience, trust, understanding and cooperation, the happiness of married life remains intact.
What is the right time to get married??
As I mentioned earlier, there is no set age for marriage. But there is definitely a right time to get married. Let’s say, you have found your perfect match. So, should you get married now? The answer is – “No.” It’s not just about choosing the right partner. It also depends on how financially stable you are. Most parents feel that an irresponsible person starts understanding his responsibilities after marriage. In short, according to them, the person becomes sensible. Which, in my view, is a “myth”.
If you are a person who does not do any work whether you are a boy or a girl then according to me you are not fit for marriage. Self-reliance is important for everyone. It is not based on any particular person or gender. “Will a person who is dependent on his parents for his expenses be able to take responsibility of someone else after marriage?” First of all you should bring yourself to a position where you believe that, you are ready to take responsibility of someone else. That time will be the right time for you.
Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage:
I have given my opinion on marriage. As far as love marriage or arranged marriage is concerned. To be honest, I don’t have any particular opinion on this. However, many people think that marrying the person of your choice keeps the love between two people alive for life and both remain happy forever.
On the other hand, they feel that, because in arranged marriages, people get married who do not know anything about each other beforehand. Therefore, lack of understanding gives rise to conflicts which slowly destroys the love between two people.
Love between two people does not depend on whether you marry as per your choice or give importance to your family’s choice. If I talk about divorce cases, whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, we see divorce cases in both the marriages.
- As long as the couples are able to understand each other without any criticism.
- As long as one is willing to support the other in difficult times.
- Moreover, as long as there is trust in each other without any doubt.
It is guaranteed that whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, there will always be love between them and they will always be happy with each other. Please share your thoughts in the comment box below. Whether you agree or disagree or have a new opinion.
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