My article today is based on criticism. Let us understand this in brief.
What is criticism in simple language?
Nowadays, criticizing someone has become a very common thing among people. Although criticizing someone is not always wrong. You may be among those critics who say good or bad things about the work of others. In which your intention is to correct the mistakes of others.
On the other hand, you may also be included in a list that points out a person’s flaws without context or in a harsh manner. The aim of such a person is not to correct someone’s mistakes but to humiliate someone else. In both cases, one person points out the shortcomings of another person. But there is a lot of difference in the intention of the person in both cases.
“In short, if you are highlighting someone’s good or bad qualities to him or her, whatever your intention is, it is called criticism.”
In this article, I will tell you about two types of criticism and also the reason behind them.
1) What is Destructive Criticism?
Destructive criticism is a type of criticism in which people point out someone’s flaws, without concern for the well-being of others.. Their intention is simply to bring you down.
Destructive criticism can have many causes:
a) Safe and powerful place:
- Wealth, position and status – these are three locks whose key is not possessed by everyone. These are three safe positions where you feel no one can harm you. People misuse these positions in many ways as per their convenience. One of these is to criticize someone.
- However, it is a normal thing for such people to criticize someone. But since this article is based on criticism, I am explaining it to you specifically. Such people put forward their views without respecting anyone’s feelings and without thinking about any consequences. They have a hidden assurance that “he is safe.”
- They do not care about what impact their behavior will have on the other person. Neither do they think before hurting anyone nor are they afraid of any reaction.
- Wealth, position and status anything that makes you stronger than others does not stay with you forever. This is just a reward we get for our good deeds.
- Therefore, before criticizing people, change your intention from positive to negative so that they can correct their mistakes.
b) Misuse of anonymous identity:
- If you are an viewer you have the right to tell the artist where he is going wrong. Every person has some ideal person from whom he learns a lot and wants to become like him. When we start idolizing an artist, we don’t like their inappropriate activities. We do not want that person to do such things or conduct himself in such a way that other people speak badly about him.
- But sometimes their behavior towards people or some of their activities disappoint you. As a result, you start criticizing them using a hidden identity by commenting on their character, their looks, their acting, and their clothes.
- However, you can definitely tell them where they are going wrong and what they should not do. Every person has his limit and it is wrong to cross that limit. If you want to improve them, you can. But it is wrong to deliberately comment on someone’s looks, attire, performance and character.
- You don’t even realize how much your criticism hurts them. Your comments demoralize them and they start to feel a lack of confidence.
“I would like to request all those people who make such comments on others, please don’t make such comments and don’t criticize them by using inappropriate words.”
c) To suffer from an inferiority complex:
Every person is more or less than the other person in some way or the other. Because we all know that “no one is perfect.” Yet people still compare themselves with others and get disappointed by their shortcomings. Since, we focus only on our own shortcomings and the good qualities of others, we are unable to see our own good qualities. As a result, such people suffer from inferiority complex.
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- Due to inferiority complex, a feeling of jealousy arises in a person, in which he does not like the freedom of others, in which he does not like the success of others. A person suffering from an inferiority complex starts finding ways to hurt you and demoralize you by criticizing you in some way or the other.
- Such people will repeatedly criticize you for your behavior, call you unfit for a particular task, and rate you lower than others. If you are a girl, such people will criticize you for the way you walk, laugh, talk, dress, even for things like your education and job, and they will feel that just because you are a girl, you are not entitled to so much freedom.
- They will criticize you so often that you start believing it to be true. As a result, you deviate from your path.
“One thing to understand here is that how can you become successful by criticizing others and blocking their path? My request to such people is that if you are on this path then change your path. You will get success not by criticizing others but by your hard work and dedication.”
2) What is Constructive Criticism?
Constructive criticism is a type of criticism where the person genuinely wants you to improve. The intentions of such people are pure and are for your welfare.
Suppose you made a project or gave a performance, unless you know your mistakes, how will you be able to correct them. This is where critics help you. Critics not only make you aware of your shortcomings but also of your good qualities, so that you do not get discouraged.
A person can improve himself only if the criticism he receives is constructive. However, it also depends on you how wisely you are able to judge whether the criticism is constructive or destructive. The person who is criticizing you, whoever he may be, does not necessarily wish bad for you or is jealous of you.
Whether the criticism is constructive or destructive, I am not in favour of responding to anyone, nor would I suggest you do so. Reacting to criticism immediately by thinking, “I am not like that” or “Why should I listen to them”, this approach does not help in dealing with criticism.
Before responding to criticism, you should analyze well whether it is correct or not. Ask yourself-
Do I really have these shortcomings?
If the answer is yes, then understand that there is a need for improvement.
If you don’t want someone related to you to do something wrong, if he is on the wrong path or is doing something that is not good for him, then you must tell him. You can sometimes be harsh with constructive criticism, just don’t forget your limits.
“I have a small suggestion, while pointing out someone’s shortcomings, try to make him aware of his good qualities as well. So that the person does not get discouraged and can improve his shortcomings.”
I want you to please let me know in the comment box below to what extent you agree with me and what is your opinion on this.
“Stay connected, keep smiling!”
