Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.
–William Shakespeare
“You just have to be right once”
Coming here and reading this article can be that right decision in your life. If you’ve decided to give up, don’t be surprised that you’re reading this article. I am not a professional motivator and I don’t claim to take away all your sorrows and problems. But I will try my 100% to make you all feel good by sharing my experiences and life learnings to bring satisfaction and peace in your life.
There is no person on earth who is completely happy, who has not struggled and who is not struggling. The only difference is that some sorrows are visible and some are not. “Happiness and sorrow both come together,” believe it or not but this is the reality. You just have to be mature enough to find happiness in every sadness. This is how victory and defeat come together.
For example:
- Consider a person, who has lost a competition, but in spite of this, he neither feels bad nor cries, rather he decides in his mind that he will start his journey again, fight and emerge victorious. He overcame their emotions and showed a strong will to move forward. Even though he lost, he won when it came to controlling his emotion.
- On the other hand, there is a person who wins a competition and now he starts to feel that he is better than others and that is why he got this victory. He gets so immersed in his happiness that he forgets that this competition was his first success. Even though he won, he could not control his happiness enough to see beyond this world. He failed to control his emotion.
I hope you understand how winning and losing go hand in hand.
Whatever event is happening or has happened in your life, you just have to“gather your courage and tell your mind that this is not the end, I am strong, definitely I will start my journey again,” Trust me, this self-motivation will give you a feeling of peace and happiness and support that I can do it no matter what.
There are so many things we go through in our life, I have picked three of them to tell you how to keep peace and handle any situation with maturity:
1) Financial crisis:
In my opinion, we go through two types of financial crises.
Category 1:
This category includes those people who do not have a good house to live in, do not get proper food to eat, do not have good clothes to wear and cannot do all those things which are the basic needs of a human being.
Category 2:
This category includes those people who are getting influenced and fascinated by seeing the lives of others on social media and start comparing their lives with them and say that I am facing financial crisis, whereas in reality it is not so.
COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY.
–Theodore Roosevelt
My purpose of comparing these two categories is to tell you that:
- We are not living in the real world but in the world we have created. We only see a select few people whose life is more luxurious than ours. We include them in our created world and feel sad about why we are living such an ordinary life.
- The more we pay attention to others life the more we get disturbed and develop a feeling of jealousy which is not good for us.
- For us, there don’t exist people who are living a much more ordinary life than us and who are not even able to manage their expenses.
“Whether you fall into category one or two, keep it in mind that there is always an upper class and a lower class when it comes to money.” Your hard work, determination, confidence and faith in God can bring any constructive change in your life.
If you start thinking from today that whatever hard work you have done till now, you have got the result according to that. But from now on, you will have to work hard according to the result you want. Instead of looking at the money and position of a successful person, if you look at his hard work then it will prove beneficial for you.
2) Orientation towards beauty:
- Beauty is undefined, the simple logic is that if you don’t love yourself then people around you make you feel even worse about yourself and you start hating yourself.
- First love and respect the soul that is inside you which gives you life to live. Is it possible for a person to be blind, dumb, deaf, handicapped, mentally and physically ill? No, right? So, you should always be thankful to God that you can at least see, hear, walk and speak properly.
- Suppose, you are blind, dumb, deaf, disabled, mentally and physically ill person. But tell me one thing, are you in danger? Are you afraid that a hunter will come and kill you. No, right? Why is that?
- This is because we are all born as humans. So, start loving yourself and respecting yourself no matter how you look and always be grateful to God.
3) Relationship failure:
Expectation is the root of all heartache.”
–William Shakespeare
- Love someone, without expecting anything in return. Always be ready to give support, love, respect and care. Do not impose your dominance, favors on anyone. Always be grateful to God that you are in a position to give.
- It must be unconditional. don’t be afraid of being rejected. Rejection doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough in someone’s eyes, it just means that their criteria don’t match yours. Think honestly, would you say “yes” to every “girl” or “boy”? Don’t you have any criteria of your own for a special person?
- Assuming anything is the biggest mistake we always make. So, stop doubting yourself that you are not perfect. “You are perfect.”
- It is very natural to develop feelings for someone but the other person is not obliged to develop the same feelings.
- You have been betrayed by someone because he or she has lost their feelings for you and you are crying in frustration and despair about this. Instead look at the other side, a better version is waiting for you
- We cannot understand or guess God’s plan. They don’t not give us what we think is good for us, but what is really good for us.
Don’t forget to share your experiences and learnings in the comment box below. I have something special for you in my next article, till then take care of yourself.
“Stay connected, keep smiling!”
